‘Father’, the sacred title shared with the Almighty is more than a decision maker and a bread earner. ‘He’ is important, however, most of us imagine a mother to be a nurturing parental figure. We forget the one with a constant rock solid presence and the one who can shepherd a child in the correct direction with a firm but a caring hand. The unconditional love of the father lies unseen however he demonstrates his love moment by moment. Father’s love contributes as much as or even more than that of a mother.
Fathers play a great role in the wellbeing of their children. He has a direct impact on the physical, mental and social development of the child as a whole. Behind every successful mother, there is always a silent and strong presence of a father. His contributions might be latent but cannot be neglected. Following are ten reasons why the father is important for the new-born baby.
Early development of a child is highly influenced by the amount of time the child spends with his/her parents. Though the presence of the mother is important for the child, the presence of the father is quite necessary too. Physical and mental development of the child is affected by the presence of the father. The well-being of the new-born is boosted by the presence and active participation of the father. Not only this, Fathers can also help nurture positive characteristics in the new-born right from his/her childhood.
The mother requires time to regain her condition after undergoing labor. She also needs to nurture her young one, catering to all his/her needs. This builds up a symbiotic relationship between the mother and the child. The child needs his/her mother for nourishment and care while the baby helps to teach the mother the new way of life. Fathers here serve as an armor protecting this relationship from rest of the world. He serves as a buffer between this relationship and the world. He can protect this relationship by taking care of any situations that may be a hindrance to a stable life. Fathers, therefore, are a saviour of the bond.
Fathers who spend quality time with their young ones tend to form a strong bond with them. Playing, enjoying and having fun with the new-born helps to form a strong long-lasting bond between the two. This is necessary because later as the child grows up he follows his dad’s footprints. The consent from the father and his advice becomes important for the child. This bond, thus, helps to inculcate positive characters in the child.
Fathers who participate in the early development of the kid has been seen to help grow positive characteristics in the child. The more fathers were involved and interested in the upbringing of the child, the greater was the intellectual development of the child. Fathers can induce exploratory skills which help the development of independence. He can also induce the sense of self-control through different games like chasing and wrestling.
Those homes which do not involve the active participation of both the parents are unstable and often lead to chaos. Such an environment is not at all beneficial for the growing child instead hinders development. Anxiety and depression drop in when there is instability around. Homes, where fathers are actively involved, see lesser anxiety, accidents, and obstacles. Such prosperous and happy environment is healthy for the growing child. Hence fathers must equally participate in the household tasks.
Children who grow up being nurtured by their father tend to develop similar characteristics later in life. Fathers become their role model. They tend to gain behavioural patterns from their fathers, thus they can be a good source of inspiration for them. A father can pass down positive traits to his child. He can ensure that the child is taught the correct ways of life. Fathers should also ensure that he behaves just the right way in front of his child because they are their child’s first ‘male model’. Fathers can show children that real men can be stable and independent and can actively take part in completing household chores. In this way, a father becomes a source of inspiration for the child.
Pregnancy and childbirth are exhausting for the mother. She needs a considerable amount of time to regain her fitness so as to lead a normal life. The child too requires extensive care during the initial days. Fathers, therefore, can extend a helping hand. He can help taking care of the child’s needs and also care for the mother. A father can arrange visits to the paediatrician in case of emergency. Fathers during this initial stage should be supportive and caring. He should know that his wife and his kid needs utmost love and care and should tend to it. Stuff like visits to a hospital or even as basic as buying veggies and cooking can be taken up by the father in order to provide some relaxation to the mother because her health is quite important for the health of the new-born.
The quantity and quality of time fathers spend with their young ones have a direct impact on the children. New-borns who often spend healthy time with their dads develop social skills. Children with a strong attachment to their fathers tend to have lesser behavioural problems. In fact, appropriate involvement of father from the first month of childbirth enhances better cognition skills and language development in children. A child grows physically, mentally and socially under the development of the father. Father can influence children to take up good steps and do good deeds right from their childhood. These characteristics learned by the child during his/her childhood contributes to a better life in future.
Men are not just meant to be working for the family, instead should really be with the family. New- borns make men realize what it is to be a ‘dad’. With childbirth comes responsibility which requires men to quickly adapt themselves to a new role. Patience, discipline, and love need to be grown and developed inside men in order to accept this new way of life. Moreover, it’s not just the development of the father alone, children too watch their father and learn their role involved. Children having involved and active dad tends to be good parents in future as well.
Playtime is always necessary for kids. Having some quality game time, some fun and enjoyment, in fact, can boost the metabolism of not only the child but also the father as well. This can also help increase concentration and stability. Fathers see a surge in concentration at work when they spend some happy moments with their kids. After a stressful day, some quality amount of game time can help ease you out. Fun and enjoyment also bring the family together this thus creates a happy and stable family.
- Written ByRitam Das