TEN WAYS FATHERS CAN SPEND TIME WITH THEIR NEW-BORN BABIES

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Becoming a father is a wonderful thing. It is like having something outside of yourself that is more important and precious than you. While it is quite necessary for the mother and the new-born to develop a strong and deep connection, it is also important for the father to spend some quality time bonding with his child.

Mothers already have a connection with the new-born as she carried the child for nine months hence in general when bonding with a new-born is thought of, the picture of mother and her child tend to come to mind. We completely ignore the fact that the child also needs the father just as much it needs the mother.

The father is considered to be the decision maker and the bread earner. He spends most of his time working, the rest of which he spends either on daily chores or preparing stuff for the next day. This limits the time he can spend with his new-born and hinders bonding. Following are ten ways by which fathers can spend time bonding with their new-born.

  • 1. INCLUDE YOUR BABY IN ERRANDS:

    Fathers can spend a good amount of time with their kids by including them in their daily errands. Since daily tasks consume most of one’s time, including children while doing this tasks can be a great way to spend an ‘extra hour’ with your young one. Do you need to go to the market? Bring him along with you. Wear a baby carrier and attach your kid to your chest. Talk to him about what you are doing. You can even show your kids what you buy. Babies are attracted to colourful stuff. You will see him gaze at the objects and sometimes you can expect a smile or a laugh.

    Including them in the errands is not only a way to spend time with your new born but also helps the child learn things. The more he is exposed to the outside environment the quicker his response abilities and motor skills develop. This also a great and simple way to bond with your little one.

  • 2. HELP FEED THE BABY :
  • Feeding your baby can be a way to spend time with your new-born. While bottle feeding the child, the father can cuddle the baby close to him and look into his eyes. These develop love and allows your baby to gaze at you and know you. Try moving your kid around, sing or even talk to your kid while you are feeding him. This way the kid learns that his mother is not the only one who can give him what he wants.

    Feeding your baby not only brings you closer to your kid but also helps the mother relax a bit. Parenting must be done in such a way that both of you have a fair share of time with your kid.

  • 3. BE A ‘GOOD NIGHT’ DADDY :
  • Night and its stillness is the perfect time to cradle your baby close, holding them and showing them how much you love them. This is the best time for the father to get bonded with his child. It will bring you some precious alone time with your kid which will not only help you bond with your child but also will help the mother to get some extra sleep. Besides this, you can try to sing lullabies or rhymes and put your baby to sleep thus spending some good ‘night time’ with your kids.

  • 4. READ TO YOUR BABY :
  • Reading can be just another way to spend time with your baby. It is one of the most important things a father can do with his child. You can even read to your baby the day you bring him from the hospital. Take your baby on your laps, cuddle and read. You can pick simple books with bright pictures. Show him the pictures and tell him what is happening in the story. This way you are actually helping him learn that reading is an important and natural part of daily life.

  • 5. DO ‘TUMMY TIME’ WITH YOUR BABY :
  • Tummy time is placing one’s baby on his/her stomach on the floor while being supervised by the parents. Tummy time can be a fun and relaxing way to spend time with your kid. Besides this, tummy time can actually benefit the kid and is essential for your baby. Place some couch pillow on the floor and lay him down on his stomach. Accompany him and you too lay alongside him. Play with him and let him be in this position for about five-six minutes, three to four times a day. Tummy time can be a healthy way to spend some quality time with your baby.

  • 6. TAKE HIM FOR A WALK :
  • For most, this comes across as obvious, but for the uninitiated, do not venture out with your infant, as the chances of them contracting an illness increase a lot. A lot of variables like temperature, hygiene and mosquitoes are out of your control outside the house. If you must go out with your child, try to avoid crowded places, as infections spread faster among throngs of people. And ensure it is kept warm and dry.

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  • 7. PLAYTIME :
  • Fathers should set aside time to play with his little one every day. Try to make it a part of your daily schedule. This way kid expects their ‘daddy time’. Play their games and try to have fun with them. Sing to them, play rhymes and talk to your kid. This actually helps the kid learn new words. When your little one is old enough to go for a physical play with your kids like giving them horsey rides. These are not only fun but also develops the kid’s balance and coordination.

  • 8. BATH TIME :
  • It’s a fact that your kid needs a bath. Instead of letting the mother do this by default, why not use this time to bond with your kid? Babies love being in the water and a warm water bath can actually be a quite relaxing ritual. You can have a heart-to-heart conversation. Talk about what you are doing and sing and have fun. Try to maintain eye contact and smile often. Fill the bathtub with toys and play with them. Be silly and laugh together. This way u can have a wonderful time with your young one. The more fun you have, the stronger the bond gets.

  • 9. GO FOR A BABY MASSAGE :
  • Skin is the largest organ of the human body and babies responds to touch. New-born learns about their outside environment through stimuli. This generates neural development and communication. You can actually spend some quality time giving an infant massage. Soothe and relax your baby and rub his legs and arms gently. While massaging always talk to your baby. This ensures direct physiological warmth and bonding. This way the baby will soon be able to recognize your smell, voice and touch.

  • 10. TAKE THE DIAPER-DUTY :
  • It may not sound like the best way to spend time with your little one but babies need a change several times in a day. Most fathers do not actually relish the idea of dealing with this but diaper change has some fringe benefits. You are closer to your baby and the distance is just perfect for talking or singing together. This is the time to tickle your baby’s feet, making silly sounds and making your little one feel more comfortable around you.

- Written By
Ritam Das

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